Failure is one of the toughest parts of our life to overcome. When it comes to failing, our egos are our worst enemies. Everyone has seen or experienced failure at some point in their life. Nobody escapes it. Sooner or later, everyone experiences it. If someone gets hit by major setbacks in his or her life, people often misinterpret it as a breakdown. Always remember, failure is a staircase to success. You may fall from it, maybe a hundred times but make sure you climb up again. Some people never fail, because they never aim for success. Yes, some people are so focused on not failing that they forget to aim for success.
Failure is actually a very important part of our success. It isn’t really a problem anyway. The problem lies when we limit ourselves, and fail to learn from it. Always deal with the problems of your life with a positive attitude. Negative response leads to nothing but setbacks and blunders it may cause you to give up on your goals. Everyone deals with setbacks but they can be overcome only if we see them as a part of bigger life picture. Use failure as a valuable learning tool.
You can benefit from every failure, obstacle, or embarrassing experience by asking yourself the following questions:
- What did I learn from this experience?
- What can I do differently next time to avoid it?
Thomas Edison, whose most memorable invention was the light bulb, which purportedly took him 1000 tries before he developed a successful prototype. “How did it feel to fail 1000 times?” a reporter asked. “I didn’t fail 1000 times,” Edison responded. “The light bulb was an invention with 1000 steps.”
Fear of failure
Firstly, most of the people never succeed in life because of their fear of failing. Of course, no one wants to fail. We’d like to succeed every time. But we do learn more from our failure than we ever will from our successes. Rather than labeling your setbacks and blunders as failures, choose to say you have learned a lot of ways not to do something at the second attempt.
Secondly, some people never overcome their failure because they never forgive themselves for failing. Instead of moving beyond failure to success, they continue to punish themselves with self-inflicted guilt. If you have failed, admit it and start over afresh. The key to success is determining how you’ll handle your failure. If you try to hide it, it will haunt you. If you confess it, you can conquer it.
“Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the wrong direction.”
– Al Bernstein.
Use failure as a platform
Failure can be used as a platform – it can be used as a launching board towards something incredible. I remember a short story of a girl and an artist. One day some ink was, accidentally, spilled onto a beautiful and an expensive handkerchief by a girl during her painting classes and that mess was observed by her teacher-an artist who decided to make the best of the situation. So, he drew a picture on the cloth and used the blotch of ink as part of the scenery. At the end, something beautiful was made on a blundered product.
God is well-equipped to do the same for us, if we allow him to. Place your problems and failure in God’s hand, it’s never too late. Sometimes, we forget that god is a miracle worker. He is well able to take our failures and work them into his plans for our future. Above all, allow God to direct your paths. He will take care of everything.
“The righteous may fall seven times but still get up”
– Proverbs 24:16
Never give up
When we study life of some beautiful minds who have succeeded in their life, one quality they almost always have in common is “persistence”. They never give up. They know that the longer they hang in there and the more they persist, the greater the chance that something will happen in their favor. Never give up on your dreams. You may find it challenging but quite often the challenges you face will help you learn new lessons, get good at making difficult decisions, and develop your character.
Here is a small incident that happened with Thomas Edison – a well known scientist. Thomas Edison invented the microphone, the phonograph, the incandescent light, the storage battery, talking movies, and more than 1000 other things. December 1914, he had worked for 10 years on a storage battery which had greatly strained his finances. One particular evening, spontaneous combustion broken out in his film room and within minutes all the packing compounds, celluloid for records and film, and other flammable goods were in flames. Fire companies from eight surrounding towns arrived, but the heat was so intense and the water pressure so low that the attempt to douse the flames was futile. Everything was destroyed.
The damage exceeded two million dollars; the buildings were only insured for $238,000 because they were made of concrete and thought to be fireproof.
The inventor’s 24-year old son, Charles, searched frantically for his father. He finally found him, calmly watching the fire, his face glowing in the reflection, his white hair blowing in the wind. “My heart ached for him,” said Charles. “He was 67 – no longer a young man – and everything was going up in flames. When Edison saw him, he shouted, ‘Charles, Where’s your mother?’ Charles told him, “I didn’t know.” Edison said, ‘Find her and bring her here. She will never see anything like this as long as she lives.”
The next morning, Edison looked at the ruins and said, “There is a great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank god, we can start anew.” Three weeks after the fire, Edison managed to deliver the first phonograph.
Similarly, there are n numbers of notable individuals who have failed in life more times than they have succeeded. They never gave up over their works which brought them success in future.
Remember, our Holy Bible reminds us in Jeremiah 8:4 as, “when people fall down, do they not get up?” So, you may fall or you may fail but be bold. Rise up, Run.
You may be a student or a parent who is reading this. Whether you’ve experienced failure as a parent, in the form of bankruptcy after starting your own business, or a student who has failed in exams, remember you did the best you could with the knowledge and skills you had available at the time. After all, you did survive. Now you know, you can cope up with the results of failing. To get yourself up and running once again, focus on past successes. Remind yourself you’ve had more victories than defeats. Try to spend time with positive, caring friends and family who can validate your worth and help you refocus on your goals.
Never let your failure break you, and the only way that failure can break you is if you let it. What you have to understand is that everybody fails but not everyone gets back up and tries again. So, no matter how many time you fail, get up and try it again. Never let the failure stand between you and what you want to accomplish. Once you’ve created a new plan of action, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move in the direction of your dreams. It was the comedian, George Burns who said, “I, honestly, think it is better to fail at something you love than to succeed at something you hate.”
Failure isn’t the end, it’s a new beginning!
One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.
One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One start can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.
One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.
One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.
One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what’s true.
One life can make the difference,
You see, it’s up to you!
Goal setting is a process, a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future. Goal setting energizes you like nothing else because when you set goals you know the purpose of your life and that purpose motivates you to go beyond dreaming. The process of setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in life. Setting goals helps you to think about what you want to achieve in life, and most importantly setting goals increases confidence, develops your competence level and boosts your level of motivation.
Why set goals?
All successful people are intensely goal oriented. They know what they want and so every single day, they are focused single mindedly on achieving it. Top level athletes, successful business people and achievers in all fields, set goals. Just think, why do successful people set goals? According to me, setting goals gives them a long term vision and a short term mission, and this is the only reason we often get to see the words ‘vision’ and ‘mission’ in many offices and business areas. Remember, vision and mission allows you to see the bigger picture of your life. Mission pushes you forward towards your goal and it inspires you with an intensity of desire that you don’t normally possess.
There are people who live without goals. Simply, a goal-less life! They live without a sense of purpose or mission, and no doubt their life is full of chaos and despair. Their attention is always being shifted, and their thoughts are continuously scattered. Their activities and accomplishments are meaningless.
If you don’t really have goals, stop! Have one. It is never too late. Because, when you have goals in your life, you’ll find your career accelerating. Setting goals is as important as surviving and when you set goals you fly like an arrow, straight and true to your target.
How do we set goals?
Set your lifetime goals first and when you set goals make sure that they motivate you which means making sure that they are important to you, and that there is value in achieving them. Think what you want from life and then set formal goals, and when you set formal goals, you’ll also quickly spot the distractions that can so easily lead you astray. Be clear about what you want to accomplish. Your goals should always be tough enough to challenge you but not so daunting that it squashes you.
Here are few questions which might help you to discover your goals:
Try answering them !
- What is your deepest desire?
- What do you feel most passionate about?
- What idea never leaves you?
- What would bring you the greatest fulfillment?
- What is the most important thing you wish to do in your lifetime?
When you set goals, the very first step is to have a long-term goal and then short-term goals. How to set a long-term goal? Imagine where you’d like to see yourself after 10 years or may be after 20 years. You might dream to become the chairperson of a company or a successful business man. That’s it.Note it down. Make sure that the goals that you have set are ones that you genuinely want to achieve, not ones that your parents, family, or friends might want. This is important. Never let others to set your goal. Most importantly, set goals that you can achieve.
Once you have set your long-term goal, set a five year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete which will help you attain your lifetime goal. Further, create a one year plan, followed by a six month plan, and then a one month plan. Then create a daily To-Do list of things that you should do today in order to achieve your long-term goal. You can even make a list of your goals and rate them, according to priority.Lastly,work your way through the list, one at a time. For example, your goal might be to work as a nature photographer in Africa one year from now. Set goals that have a clear sense of purpose and work towards it. Most importantly, know what you want to achieve in your life, this will help you in concentrating on your efforts. Make sure you set goals that match your values and if you pursue goals that don’t match your values, they’ll drain you of mental and emotional energy and you’ll be left thinking “Is this all I wanted?” Sooner or later, your system will break down physically, mentally, emotionally. Give yourself a value check every now and then.
Finally review your plans, and make sure that they fit the way in which you want to live your life.
Wisely setting goals leads to better results:
“The plans of the diligent lead to profit”
– Proverbs 21: 5
I asked God to take away my pride,
And God said, “No.”
He said it was not for Him to take away,
But for me to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole,
And God said, “No.”
He said her spirit is whole.
Her body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience,
And God said, “No.”
He said patience is a by-product of tribulation.
It isn’t granted, it is learned.
I asked God to give me happiness,
And God said, “No.”
He said He gives blessings,
Happiness is up to me.
I asked God to spare me pain,
And God said, “No.”
He said, “Suffering draws you apart from
Worldly cares and brings you closer to me.”
I asked God to make my spirit grow,
And God said, “No.”
He said I must grow on my own,
But he will prune me to make it fruitful.
I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life,
And God said, “No.”
He said I will give you life,
so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God if He loved me,
And God said, “Yes.”
He gave me His only son, who died for me.
And I will be in Heaven someday
because… I believe.
I asked God to help me love others
As much as He loves me,
And God said,
“Ah finally, you have the idea.”
-By Claudia Minden Welsz
Dreams are a very important part of our life. Every beautiful mind has got a dream. It would be hard to find a person with no dream. Dreams are just as important in your everyday living as they are in the big picture of your life. Think about it. Without a dream, you would not have goals. Without goals, you would not make any plans. And without a plan, you cannot transform your dreams into reality.
Who are dreamers? Dreamers are the one who create society; dreamers are the one who inspire others with their beautiful mind and thoughts. Dreamers have no fear of breaking new grounds, initiating new ventures, and forging new paths. They are forward thinkers and being forward thinkers, they are often ahead of their time and sometimes pay the price by being criticized or misunderstood. They are dreamers, the far-sighted, the imaginative, the creative, and the visionaries. They are generally happy, healthy, and energetic.
Inside everyone one of us is the seed of the person we’re meant to become. The problem is many of us fail to care and water that seed. Look at some fantastic minds that have succeeded in their life, turning their dreams into realities. Their journeys weren’t easy, they have gone through lot of failures, and they were often insulted, discouraged, fired from their jobs, and even rusticated from their respective colleges/universities. They have gone through a lot of things but one thing they never stopped to do was dreaming and working hard towards their goal. Goals are never achieved in a single day, we have to work constantly and if we lose touch with our dreams, we end up becoming numb to our own desires and we would never have a chance to blossom.
It is a fact that we often feel demotivated while moving forward towards our goal. Here’s a fun and valuable exercise or activity, once taught by my closest friend which helps me at times to boost my inner soul and here it is;
Sit quietly with a large sheet of paper or journal and a pen or some colorful markers and draw something which will help you feel relax or make a list of your goals or dreams you need to achieve in your life and let your imagination free and dream without restricting yourself. Ignore obstacles, limitations, and barriers. Don’t inhibit this dreaming exercise by concentrating on the reason something might not happen. For instance, don’t focus on why it looks impossible, or don’t direct your attention towards the hurdles that stand in the way. At this moment, make a list that includes everything you can imagine becoming, accomplishing, or attaining at some point in your life or maybe 10 years down the lane.
Now the question is, why should we have a dream? When you do, you’ll stay focused on what matters most while living a life of purpose and integrity. You’ll be motivated and inspired to strive toward excellence while fulfilling your destiny. Your life will go from ordinary to extraordinary, from average to exceptional, and you’ll experience victory in ways you never imagined. You will let go of the past, develop a healthy self-imagine, reach your potential for greatness, and create brighter future for yourself and those around you. You will discover more fulfillments in your life, more satisfaction in your relationships, and a deeper intimacy with your creator. Even if you get knocked down, get back with double strength and make sure you give your 200% efforts. Always remember, failure is just a stepping stone to success. With failure and mockery, you’ll acquire new lessons to fight your battle. Keep going, no matter what. With a dream, you’ll enlarge your vision and start believing in all you can become.
If you truly want to fulfill your dream, you must fix your sights on it and not get caught up in anything that won’t take you there and rather than dedicating your time and energy to tedious, unproductive, unfulfilling time – stealers, devote your attention to those pursuits that will bring you a step closer to your goal. Cut back on television viewing and internet surfing, instead dedicate those hours to activities that contribute to your highest dreams and goals. Remember, you are a person of destiny. You may not realize it but you have a dream inside of you. Not only dream, you even have the potential to transform that dream into reality. Dreams start as small flickers. Throughout your life you must constantly fan the fame and add fuel to get them blazing and as you dream, know that god is at work. Your responsibility is to consider the various areas of life and the lives of others that will be transformed once your dreams become realities.
The poor man is not he, who is without a cent;
But he who is without a dream!
– Harry Kemp
The month of February brings excitement and thrill to the youth as they look forward to celebrate a day in this month as Valentine’s day. Every year on this day – 14th of February, many youngsters believe this day is all about flowers, red hearts, chocolates, gifts, cards, romance etc.No! This day is all about Love.
What is Love? Love is an emotion, an expression. Love is as old as creation of God.He created everything as an expression of his love and wisdom. Love makes life worth living at all levels of life and relationships – husband and wife,parents and children,teachers and students,friend to friend and above all God and man.
Today,how many people are even aware of this? 14th-Feb-The Valentine’s Day is named after a Saint Valentine? These days,people are so busy with their love and own kind of romance which gives them no time to think about the origin or history about certain things. Let us see some of the facts or the history about how Valentine’s Day originated.
Their lived a man called Valentine in the third century at Rome who had a deep love for God and it was the period of King Claudius || and during his period many Christians were persecuted and the soldiers in the army of King Claudius || were not allowed to marry. Since, King Claudius || believed that – “Unmarried soldiers fought better than married soldiers because married soldiers might be afraid of what might happen to them or their wives or families if they died.” This was the environment and society where a man called Valentine lived. Due to the persecution of Christians,St. Valentine encouraged them and helped them during their sufferings and he even encouraged many soldiers to marry and he secretly made it happen due to the edict.
St. Valentine was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured for performing marriage ceremonies against the command of King Claudius ||. In the year 269 AD, St. Valentine was sentenced to a three part execution of beating, stoning and finally to be beheaded because of his stand of christian marriage.
St. Valentine was a doctor and a great man of learning filled with wisdom.Their was a jailer named Asterius who silently observed St Valentine and one fine day he asked him whether he can teach some lessons of life to his daughter Julia who was blind since birth to which St. Valentine affirmed. Julia was a pretty and young girl with a quick mind and Valentine used to read stories of Rome’s history and he even described the world of nature to her. He even taught arithmetic and told her about God. She saw the world through his eyes and she trusted his wisdom and found comfort in his quiet strength.
One day Julia asked Valentine,does God really hear our prayers?
‘Yes, he does.He hears each one of us’,Valentine replied.
Julia said, “Do you know what I pray for every morning and every night? I pray that I might see. I want to see everything with my eyes which you’ve told me about.”
“God does what is best for us if we believe in him” – Valentine replied.
Julia said, “I do believe.I do” and she grasped his hand and knelt to pray.
They sat quietly together praying. Suddenly there was a bright ray of light in the prison cell. Radiant, Julia screamed with joy,”Valentine I can see.I can see.”
“Praise be to God!” Valentine exclaimed and he continued his prayers.
Finally,the day arrived February 14, 270 AD. The day which was meant for St. Valentine to be beheaded and a day before that i.e 13th – February, Evening time St. Valentine wrote a last note to Julia thanking her for their friendship and urging her to stay close to God,signing it off as “From your Valentine” and the next day he was beheaded in front of the people and that place was later named as ‘Porta Valentini’ in his memory. He was buried at a place which is now known as the ‘Church of Praxedes’ in Rome.
It is said that Julia planted a pink-blossomed almond tree near his grave. Today, the almond tree planted there stands as a symbol of abiding love and friendship.
Let us practice loving each other for love comes from God. Let us learn from the life of St. Valentine, he got nothing in return for helping the soldiers to get married but the soldiers did lived a happy life.He got nothing by encouraging the persecuted people but people who were encouraged lived a better life then before.St. Valentine was beheaded due to his deeds with only intention of love. The world may give you nothing if you express your love or maybe the world will hate you in return.No matter what,let us practice loving each other for love comes from God.
“Love Conquers All”